I Dug My Parents’ Grave, A Daring Decision

Everybody dies unless you are immortal. Death in the family is inevitable and expensive, and that, it is a final destination that we must wholeheartedly accept. Hence, to dig one’s grave ahead of time is imperative, practical, cost saving and a daring decision to make.

Right after, I graduated from college, I acquired a hospitalization and pension plans for my parents.  When these were fully paid, the memorial plan followed. 

I was so adamant to tell them that I prepared their future grave already.  Since I will be needing their signatures, I have no choice but to tell them the truth.

Odd proposal

He was cheerfully playing his favorite song on the piano when I approached him “Papa, I have something to tell you, and Mama.”  He nodded his head, then I continued “don’t you think it’s cool to invest in memorial plan?” My father replied, ”well, it’s good but the matter is, those insurance companies will get lost the moment you will need them. It is a scam, I don’t believe them.” 

Wait a minute, I was thinking then, what if my father is right? But still I pushed through “Papa not all insurance companies are like that, you know one of my officemates had benefited from their services already.”  He uttered, “whatever it is but if I die, you don’t have to worry, just wrap my body in a linen cloth and throw it away to the sea.”

With the helped of my mother, we were able to convince him. Later on, he signed the contract on lot and memorial services.

Wise decision

The memorial park has a nice landscape, beautiful scenery, peaceful, calm, fresh air, that you can even smell the scent of the flowers around. While, the location is accessible to all of us.  Everything what we need from flowers, candles, food and drinks, tables and chairs, tents, etc. can be found nearby, as well as, the church.

When my father died, the cost of the lot and services had gone up to 400%, more or less.  And it was really true what the insurance company had said “we will take care everything, all you have to do is to mourn and cry.” The daring and wise decision I made was a perfect move then.

Family bonding

We never missed to visit father’s grave in every important occasion like, anniversaries, birthdays, all soul’s days, and etc. In fact one of the best family gatherings, we celebrated it here.

While my mother was sitting on the grass near my father’s grave, she was so happy watching all her grandchildren laughing, running, and playing around the park. She was always looking forward on every family gathering we had, specially here with my father. Seeing us all happy and delighted, and so she was.

Next in line

Since the memorial services is a double interment, my mother knew that it is her grave too.

On one of the visits, I had this intense conversation with my mother.

I was staring at her while she was so amused and all smile watching all the kids playing around. Suddenly, I asked, “Mama I know that you knew that this grave where we are seated right now is your grave too. Don’t you feel like something creepy?” She replied, “Yes, I am imagining myself under the ground however, there is that feeling of joy because I know all of you shall constantly come here to visit us.”  She added also, “I know what it would be like when I am gone because I have witnessed the happiness and laughter each time my family gathers here.”

I was deeply moved by that emotion and I could not help it but my tears fell. 

Alive lessons

Though you’re gone but the lessons you have taught us are still alive. The hard work and perseverance are undeniably two of the best legacies you have bestowed us. Your presence is always felt, truly you never leave us.

In time for your 7th year death anniversary Mama, this poem is for you.

UNSURPASSED LOVE

Each day I wake
Nowhere to find
You're gone before 
The sunlight comes.

Arms stretched up to my head
Note been touched laid on the bed
Reminding on the tasks unmade.

Knowing tired when coming back
Doing things beyond surprise
Making you smile and satisfied.  

Left ninety nine to seek lost one
Searched dark paths hoping to find
Soul been lost that wanders around.

Pains inside trying to hide
Worry not we shall survive
Take a rest and let us drive.

Though you're far up in the skies
Unsurpassed love never dies
Whisper help then hard day flies.

Final Thoughts

Now it is my time to dig my own grave too since I am not getting any younger. This is one of my bucket lists, one of my retirement goals. Hopefully, when pandemic is over everything shall get better, so I can start to prepare one.

I love to hear your thoughts on preparing for adversities like death, leaving your comment below is very much appreciated. Thank you.

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